Dec 31 - Mom's 18-Point iPhone Rules for Son
Thirteen-year-old Greg Hoffman had been begging his parents for an iPhone all year. So on Christmas morning he was thrilled to find the object of his desire under the tree, but there was a catch.
The phone came with an 18-point set of terms and conditions that he had to agree to before the phone could be his. And the agreement did not come from Apple or the phone provider, it was from his mother.
"Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good & responsible 13 year old boy and you deserve this gift," the agreement begins. "But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations."
The first rule on his mother's list: "It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren't I the greatest?"
"I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it," Janell Hoffman wrote. "Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership."
"I love you madly & look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come," she added.
"Oh my God. My first reaction was, why? Why did she really have to do this?" Hoffman told "Good Morning America" today.
"What I wanted to do and show him [is] how you could be a responsible user of technology without abusing it, without becoming addicted," Janell Hoffman said.
Hoffman herself is a blogger and mother of five in Cape Cod, Mass. She wanted her son to avoid many of the pitfalls that both smart phone using teens and adults fall prey to.
"Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being," read rule number seven. "Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire."
Other rules forbid [..] and the sending or receiving of "pictures of your private parts or anyone else's private parts." The rules also outline the hours and places the phone may be used.
"It it rings, answer it," said rule number three. "It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads 'Mom' or 'Dad.' Not ever."
Hoffman said that the lessons she outlined were for her son's iPhone usage, for his life and for anyone too attached to their mobile device.
"Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you," she encouraged. "Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without Googling."
Teen behavior expert Josh Shipp says a set of rules are a must for teen iPhone use.
"You wouldn't' give your kid a car without making sure they had insurance," said Shipp, who is the host of Lifetime's "Teen Trouble." "And so giving them a cell phone or a computer without teaching them how to use it responsibly is irresponsible on the part of the parent."
Here's Janell Hoffman's full list of rules for her son, originally posted on her blog:
Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good & responsible 13 year old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it. Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership.
I love you madly & look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come.
1. It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren't I the greatest?
2. I will always know the password.
3. If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads "Mom" or "Dad". Not ever.
4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30am. If you would not make a call to someone's land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.
5. It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It's a life skill. *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.
6. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs. Mow a lawn, babysit, stash some birthday money. It will happen, you should be prepared.
7. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire.
8. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.
10. No [..]. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person ? preferably me or your father.
11. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.
12. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else's private parts. Don't laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear -- including a bad reputation.
13. Don't take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO -- fear of missing out.
15. Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.
17. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
18. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You & I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.
It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life. You are growing up in a fast and ever changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new iPhone. Merry Christmas!
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|12-31-2012, 12:35 PM||away - #2|
she must be white....[pic]
|12-31-2012, 12:36 PM||away - #3|
Salute her for that !!, wish I had a caring parent like that to put me on most of that !! I apply to my life when it comes to technology/phones.
|12-31-2012, 12:38 PM||online - #4|
...All Them Muth!!in Rules Over A Phone? He Only 13, Damn....After Seeing All That. I Wouldnt Event Want The Phone No More at That Age.
|12-31-2012, 12:41 PM||away - #5|
these are great lessons i 2nd 98% or so
|12-31-2012, 12:45 PM||away - #6|
|12-31-2012, 12:47 PM||away - #7|
Props to the mom. It's good that a tech savy mother can set respectable rules and guidelines for her child. Hopefully I do the same when I have children.
|12-31-2012, 12:48 PM||away - #8|
[pic] slap the !! outta mom dukes
|12-31-2012, 12:56 PM||online - #9|
A concerned mother>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> a !!ty, absent parent
Props to her for trying to tun her son into a productive member of society.
|12-31-2012, 01:02 PM||online - #10|
Good for her. Like homey said, a concerned parent >>>. Hell, I pay my 15 year old brother's phone bill every month. I give the homey a few ground rules. Their not as indepth as the mother's in the article, but I let him know...I pay the bill...I bought the phone...I went and copped a replacement when his 1st phone broke...it's technically mine.....if my name pops up on that phone...it needs to be answered...your grades go to !!..phone goes in my pocket...etc etc........
|12-31-2012, 01:33 PM||away - #11|
|12-31-2012, 04:00 PM||away - #12|
|12-31-2012, 04:25 PM||away - #13|
The only ones I don't agree with are the rules about not taking pictures and videos. I think if the child follows the rule about not taking and dealing with obscene photos or videos, the. The child should be allowed to take as many photos and videos as the phone can hold.
And the rule about not downloading all the same music as their peers. The music should be up to the child. So long as the parent approves of the content.
|12-31-2012, 04:40 PM||away - #14|
My son is about to get this list and he will be looking like...[pic]
|12-31-2012, 04:44 PM||away - #15|
fuk u giving him the phone for?
Dude wont even be able to use it. LOL.
|12-31-2012, 05:11 PM||away - #16|
this isnt even being concerned, its being overprotective. give the phone back at 7, dont take it to school, and dont use it in public, i wouldnt even want the phone.
|12-31-2012, 05:19 PM||away - #17|
Most of the rules are straight, but a few are a little OD, such as only using it until 7:30 on weekdays but can't take the !! to school? [pic]
|12-31-2012, 06:07 PM||away - #18|
i bet her kids are uptight and !!ing stupid like her, my pops aint give me no damn 18 points, if i !!ed up he slapped the !! outta me, thats !!ing parenting
|12-31-2012, 06:36 PM||away - #19|
Why is this in headline news section and not CELLS??
|12-31-2012, 06:43 PM||away - #20|
So what can you use the phone for then ?[pic]
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