Im living home, but i have my own space here. Its not like my parents are in my room, or anywhere near me bugging me etc.

For the most part im chillin, its either live with my parents or pay 1.5/2k a month with a roomate for a space 20x smaller than my bedroom room/living room area.

I got my own bedroom and living room area... FREEEEE. All i do is chip in for utilities.

My mom is trying to get me to move to my dads vacant spot, and live on my own. But im chillin, my dad is cool and wants me to stay as long as i want to. Until i save enough to live comfortable on my own. ie. Paying utilities, furnishing my crib properly, and eating good after.

I can see why NYC is the highest, there is no reason to live on your own if your parents have space for it. Rent just cost too much to waste money paying a land lord, better off using it to help your fams.[..]uming you are in a position like me, and got a good portion of personal space.

Shiit is weird though, my mom thinks a 25 year old man should have a wife, and 3 bedroom house... But i try to explain to her those times are over, our generation isnt getting married buying cribs, and 2 cars to match. Times are too hard for that, too much uncertainty to invest in shiit like that. Especially with a partner, 70% divorce rate in America... GTFO.

My pops rather me stay, keep saving for my life and figure things out on my own. But i can understand why some parents are trying to push their kids out. Especially if you live in an apartment or a small azz crib. But if you have a big house, with multiple empty bed rooms like us, no reason not to keep an adult offspring till he/she is ready to get out.

So what im hearing is its better to freeload living in your parents house that's laid out ......then to move out and struggle until you can get your own !!.........and cats are really making excuses.....most of you scared to do it alone.....scared of the struggle.....smh........that's wack man

for those who said they moved out they crib at 15,18 etc when did ya move out? if ya moved out before the recession hit with all due respect ya need to just shut up because u dont know whats going on out here.i had a job interview in july an the lady interviewing me told me they put the job posting up on craigslist on july 4th the next day they had over 600 applicants i was like[pic]

those talking about they moved out at 15-18 was probably early 2000s when !! was still good out here tryna knock those whose struggling now tryna get by[pic]

Originally Posted by Dos-effect So what im hearing is its better to freeload living in your parents house that's laid out ......then to move out and struggle until you can get your own !!.........and cats are really making excuses.....most of you scared to do it alone.....scared of the struggle.....smh........that's wack man

I mean you gotta appreciate these mafuhkas honesty though. & Im not tryna to be a d*ck when I say that cause it IS hard out there. But Im just curious as to ppls circumstances ie where some of yall from? Ages. etc etc. Im not looking for a pat on my back cause I bounced from home in my teens. Damn near every person I know male/female left home early including my younger brother. Me personally, I just couldnt be doing what I was doing & still be in my parents apartment.
I got my 1st apartment on 143rd & Adam Clayton in Harlem when I was 17. Didnt join the service til like 19. So I its know its hard. ESPECIALLY IN NY.
But I mean Im reading some of yall !! & it just sound like alotta you are just scared of the struggle. And I know someones gonna hit me with me with that "why struggle if you dont have to" line. But life is a struggle nicca! Lol So everytime you run into a little problem in the real world you gonna go running back to mommy & daddy? It is what it is I suppose. Cause I definitely aint knockin nobody. You gotta do what you gotta do. But some of what yall sayin got yall sounding shook. Someone in here made it seem like "oh well you had kids! Shouldnt of had kids then!" O.o Like you holding your parents hostage cause they had your[..] or something.
You gonna be singin that same tune at 40 in your parents crib?
Some of you need to put !! in its proper perspective. You not gonna get a ballin[..] job off the bat. Not most of the time anyway.
And I understand the recession & all that other bs but you cant let that fuhk you up. Let it cripple you. Embrace the struggle. Hold it. Love it. Lol It builds character.

Originally Posted by Fras1788 If you're living with your parents, and you're just sitting there freeloadin' , then you're !!in lazy. I live with my Parents still, but I pay all my own !!, I buy food and coffee, I mow the lawn and help out whenever I can. Thats what its all about. Helping out financially or manually. Help out your fam, keep !! straight, and you good. I wouldn't be in here bragging about living in a basement eatin all my parents food, and having them pay all your bills n !!. Thats a !! way to live life. How can you be proud of that !!? It feels good to pay your own bills and know you're heading in somewhat of a good direction.... [pic]

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I'm in the same situation (been on my own minus the couple of times I stayed with relatives).My mother understands how bad it is out there nowadays, but I still need to earn my keep in that bih (whether it's financially or manually). Not proud of it at all, but it is what it is. You can't expect a man to be able to live off of 8-10 bucks an hour in this society. I'm 28 now (had to move back in at 26), but TRUST I will not be here at 30.

I mean, you got people out here with PH.D's who can't find any damn work.....

Originally Posted by 24/7foamz for those who said they moved out they crib at 15,18 etc when did ya move out? if ya moved out before the recession hit with all due respect ya need to just shut up because u dont know whats going on out here.i had a job interview in july an the lady interviewing me told me they put the job posting up on craigslist on july 4th the next day they had over 600 applicants i was like[pic] those talking about they moved out at 15-18 was probably early 2000s when !! was still good out here tryna knock those whose struggling now tryna get by[pic]

Aint noone in here knockin nobody. Living at home with your parents aint no goddamn struggle.
You know what struggle is? When all ya money (however you get it) is going to rent & utilities & !! & all you got left is $$ for ramen noodles. Thats being out there struggling. And if you cant respect these kids out here who are living like that then that clearly explains why youre still at your folks home. Mafuhkas dont be knowing ppl circumstances & !!. What if you had noone to go to? Then what?

Originally Posted by ManWithoutFear! I mean you gotta appreciate these mafuhkas honesty though. & Im not tryna to be a d*ck when I say that cause it IS hard out there. But Im just curious as to ppls circumstances ie where some of yall from? Ages. etc etc. Im not looking for a pat on my back cause I bounced from home in my teens. Damn near every person I know male/female left home early including my younger brother. Me personally, I just couldnt be doing what I was doing & still be in my parents apartment. But I mean Im reading some of yall !! & it just sound like alotta you are just scared of the struggle. And I know someones gonna hit me with me with that "why struggle if you dont have to" line. But life is a struggle nicca! Lol So everytime you run into a little problem in the real world you gonna go running back to mommy & daddy? It is what it is I suppose. Cause I definitely aint knockin nobody. You gotta do what you gotta do. But some of what yall sayin got yall sounding shook. Someone in here made it seem like "oh well you had kids! Shouldnt of had kids then!" O.o Like you holding your parents hostage cause they had your[..] or something. You gonna be singin that same tune at 40 in your parents crib? Some of you need to put !! in its proper perspective. You not gonna get a ballin[..] job off the bat. Not most of the time anyway. And I understand the recession & all that other bs but you cant let that fuhk you up. Let it cripple you. Embrace the struggle. Hold it. Love it. Lol It builds character.

I can't really speak for anyone else, but I was actually out at one point. Moved from Memphis to Seattle, had 2 nice paying jobs, was ready to get out my friend's apartment (in which I paid rent, grocery bill, etc) but my mom needed help. Moved back to Memphis, went back to college, got some degrees, helped raised 4 of my younger siblings (which was huge considering my step-pops, the man who raised me pa#sed around the time I had to move back), which brings me to where I am now. Right after college, I literally couldn't get a job. I was deemed overqualified by some companies, yet under qualified by other companies because I had no real-world experience. Being real, I just got back on my feet, last year.

I'm not exactly estatic about living at the house, but at the same time, I'm not some bum who just lays on the couch. I work a good paying job (for Memphis standards), take care of all my bills, pay on some of my mom's stuff and just generally help. My mom know's what it is and totally understands my situation. I'm trying to get out next year, seeing how I hate that I'm currently 25 at home. The fact of the matter is, !! is !!ed out here...I don't look down on anyone who is still at the house. Circumstances differ...now if you're at the house and doing nothing....different story....

Don't see anything wrong with it as long as there is a some type of plan. After I graduated college I was renting a condo for about 4 years, the money i was wasting on rent was ridiculous just to have my own two bedroom spot in the middle of the action. I never moved in with my parents after graduation to stack once I started working. I ended up moving in with my folks after my lease was up so I could cop a house. Most people spend 8 hours or more at work, 2 or 3 hours on the road to and from work, and their free time out. All you really doing is sleeping at the crib and getting ready for your day.

Originally Posted by MemphBleek05 I can't really speak for anyone else, but I was actually out at one point. Moved from Memphis to Seattle, had 2 nice paying jobs, was ready to get out my friend's apartment (in which I paid rent, grocery bill, etc) but my mom needed help. Moved back to Memphis, went back to college, got some degrees, helped raised 4 of my younger siblings (which was huge considering my step-pops, the man who raised me pa#sed around the time I had to move back), which brings me to where I am now. Right after college, I literally couldn't get a job. I was deemed overqualified by some companies, yet under qualified by other companies because I had no real-world experience. Being real, I just got back on my feet, last year. I'm not exactly estatic about living at the house, but at the same time, I'm not some bum who just lays on the couch. I work a good paying job (for Memphis standards), take care of all my bills, pay on some of my mom's stuff and just generally help. My mom know's what it is and totally understands my situation. I'm trying to get out next year, seeing how I hate that I'm currently 25 at home. The fact of the matter is, !! is !!ed out here...I don't look down on anyone who is still at the house. Circumstances differ...now if you're at the house and doing nothing....different story....

There is a difference of absolute necessity and just plain laziness........some people are just saying they want to stay they over grown[..]es at home because their parents provide for them........which to me is is like this

[pic] Stepbrothers Funny Dinner Scene - YouTube

Funniest movie ever by the way............these 2 together are cla#sic

Originally Posted by Dos-effect There is a difference of absolute necessity and just plain laziness........some people are just saying they want to stay they over grown[..]es at home because their parents provide for them........which to me is is like this Funniest movie ever by the way............these 2 together are cla#sic

Well yeah, I definitely agree with that. If you're at home just chillin', then that's a problem.

Originally Posted by ManWithoutFear! But I mean Im reading some of yall !! & it just sound like alotta you are just scared of the struggle. And I know someones gonna hit me with me with that "why struggle if you dont have to" line. But life is a struggle nicca!

[pic] I agree.

Making mistakes and struggling is a part of life. U have to learn how to deal with these things on your own,what if your parents come on hard times? Then u all will be !!ed.

Originally Posted by MemphBleek05 I can't really speak for anyone else, but I was actually out at one point. Moved from Memphis to Seattle, had 2 nice paying jobs, was ready to get out my friend's apartment (in which I paid rent, grocery bill, etc) but my mom needed help. Moved back to Memphis, went back to college, got some degrees, helped raised 4 of my younger siblings (which was huge considering my step-pops, the man who raised me pa#sed around the time I had to move back), which brings me to where I am now. Right after college, I literally couldn't get a job. I was deemed overqualified by some companies, yet under qualified by other companies because I had no real-world experience. Being real, I just got back on my feet, last year. I'm not exactly estatic about living at the house, but at the same time, I'm not some bum who just lays on the couch. I work a good paying job (for Memphis standards), take care of all my bills, pay on some of my mom's stuff and just generally help. My mom know's what it is and totally understands my situation. I'm trying to get out next year, seeing how I hate that I'm currently 25 at home. The fact of the matter is, !! is !!ed out here...I don't look down on anyone who is still at the house. Circumstances differ...now if you're at the house and doing nothing....different story....

Yeah I feel you...
In Memphis too?! smh
A friend of mine went through something kinda similar with his pops when his moms died. I dont know where he at now. smh

Moved out at 22 and never looked back you cant be slamming hoes at 3 am drunk at your moms crib while shes trying to sleep

Originally Posted by FuryStryfe Most people spend 8 hours or more at work, 2 or 3 hours on the road to and from work, and their free time out. All you really doing is sleeping at the crib and getting ready for your day.

Thats LIFE my nicca! Gotta charge it to the game.[pic]

Originally Posted by UpTownClips Moved out at 22 and never looked back you cant be slamming hoes at 3 am drunk at your moms crib while shes trying to sleep

Lol WORD!
Not to mention that !! is MAAAAAAAD disrespectful!

I'm 23 and not really "at home," if you will. My mom and I agreed to get an apartment together because her bum[..] boyfriend got locked up and she wasn't going to be able to take care of herself on her own with all her debt and bills. Myself, I have a decent paying job and I need to catch up on my student loans before I can go back to school, so I'm paying those off. This situation is a win win for both of us. We pay equal bills. Everything is half and half, so it's not like I'm mooching off her. Think of it as a complementing arrangement. And I'm not ashamed of it at all. She tells me I can move on if I want to (in fact, I'll get a raise if I move to New York or San Francisco so it's not about the money), but I know she needs help so I have no problem with this until she gets her money right. She's too old to be working two jobs just to support herself. It used to be she had to work two jobs to support me and my two siblings, but the economy is so bad that everyone leaving the nest doesn't make a difference anymore. I really hope I can come up on some real dough one day and help her quit her job. Pains me to see her over working herself.

But yea, you don't know what anyone's circumstance may be for living at home so don't judge. Who knows, you yourself might be forced into that situation before too long.

Originally Posted by ReppinDaBurghh [pic] at these dudes who moved out before they were 18 thinking they are big !! because they had !!ty parents.

[pic] at u for being a bum[..] nicca. i didnt choose my parents. i didnt choose for my moms to die and i didnt choose for my pops to abandon my family but i did choose to be a ballin[..] nicca you heard. u would envy my lifestyle. pushing big boy whipS, got my own HOUSE, and smash !!es on the daily. you over there playing a !!ing video game hungry yelling ya moms "whens dinner ready mommy, im hungry" [pic]

if you're working, it's better to live at home and save up for a couple of years, then you can invest instead of paying 30% of your paycheck for rent.

Originally Posted by ManWithoutFear! Im not tryna be disrespectful at all or !! on you, but you dont think thats selfish? Like, whenever you need to save some bread you just up & move back in your parents crib? I mean, if you got that typa relationship with your parents I guess thats cool or whatever. But !! man, even parents need a break after awhile. Even if youre giving them money.

That's just not how my family works man. I don't know what to tell ya. I got older cousins living with an older aunt, even tho they making next to 6 figures. We are really close and as long as you aren't a loser, people will actually ask u to come stay with them, just so they have another person around that they can trust.

If u don't have kids or a wife, paying rent is extremely wasteful. If u got fam who understand ur an adult that does adult things, living with fam is the way to go. People will talk down on chinese/hispanic folk for being family oriented, but that !! works well for people who haven't been mind !!ed by American media.

I hardly even see my moms cuz of our diffferent work schedules. I think they were more concerned when I wasn't home. Pops was worried sick about me for a while.

I just think people find it hard to understand that a family might actually want to stick together. Everyone in my family (cousins, aunts, uncles) is taken care of. My generation is doing pretty dam good too [pic]

Originally Posted by J_Teflon [pic] at u for being a bum[..] nicca. i didnt choose my parents. i didnt choose for my moms to die and i didnt choose for my pops to abandon my family but i did choose to be a ballin[..] nicca you heard. u would envy my lifestyle. pushing big boy whipS, got my own HOUSE, and smash !!es on the daily. you over there playing a !!ing video game hungry yelling ya moms "whens dinner ready mommy, im hungry" [pic]

He said that !! with the utmost conviction too lol
Like this where we at now in America? Mafuhkas finding it hard to grasp someone wanting to have THEIR OWN? [pic]
My parents aint have !! to do with me wanting to get my own.
I just wanted to have MY OWN! [pic]
weirdos

Originally Posted by Tony Franks That's just not how my family works man. I don't know what to tell ya. I got older cousins living with an older aunt, even tho they making next to 6 figures. We are really close and as long as you aren't a loser, people will actually ask u to come stay with them, just so they have another person around that they can trust. If u don't have kids or a wife, paying rent is extremely wasteful. If u got fam who understand ur an adult that does adult things, living with fam is the way to go. People will talk down on chinese/hispanic folk for being family oriented, but that !! works well for people who haven't been mind !!ed by American media. I hardly even see my moms cuz of our diffferent work schedules. I think they were more concerned when I wasn't home. Pops was worried sick about me for a while. I just think people find it hard to understand that a family might actually want to stick together. Everyone in my family (cousins, aunts, uncles) is taken care of. My generation is doing pretty dam good too [pic]

I feel you man. Like I said, I dont knock what nobody do. That !! makes sense I can dig it. I just like being on my own. My parents, my brother, his son, cousins, aunts, uncles etc they can check me. Just like I can check them. We aint gotta live together to be no family.[pic]
This aint Growing Pains lol
Im playing. But I feel you.